Should I leave remote work for a bigger salary?

The short answer

Somebody has just put a price on your freedom, which almost nobody ever gets. Before you weigh the offer, write down the number you would have named yesterday, before you knew theirs. If their number is well above yours, take it seriously. If it's near or below, they've told you what your flexibility is worth to them and it isn't what it's worth to you.

You've been handed something rare

Most people arguing about whether remote work is valuable are doing it in the abstract. You've got an actual figure attached to giving it up, from someone willing to pay it.

That's the useful part of this offer regardless of what you decide. It converts a vague preference into a price, and prices can be compared.

So do the comparison properly, and do it in the right order.

Name your number before you look at theirs

This is the whole trick and it takes about a minute. What number would you have asked for yesterday? Before this landed, what would somebody have had to offer to get you back into an office or a fixed city.

Write it down before you reread their email, because once you've seen their figure you can't unsee it. Anchoring is real and it's why people talk themselves into offers they'd have laughed at a week earlier.

Then compare. If theirs is comfortably above yours, that's a genuine trade and worth taking seriously. If theirs is close to yours, they're buying something cheap that costs you a lot. If theirs is below, the answer is already obvious and you're only looking for permission.

What you're actually selling

Be specific about the thing being purchased, because "remote work" is too vague to price.

Hours. A commute doesn't cost you the commute, it costs whatever used to live in those hours. Training, writing, the school run, sleep.

Geography. Can you still leave for a month. Can you still live somewhere cheaper or nearer people who matter. This is worth nothing until the day you'd use it, and then it's worth a great deal.

Autonomy. Who decides the shape of your day. Underpriced in advance, complained about constantly afterwards.

If you can't say which of those three you're selling, you're not ready to name a price.

The case for taking it

There is one, and it deserves saying plainly rather than being argued away.

Money buys runway, and runway buys options. A year or two at a much higher salary can fund the thing you actually want far faster than staying comfortable will. If you'd use the difference rather than absorb it, that's a real plan and not a sellout.

The test is whether you can say what the extra money is for. "More" isn't an answer. "Eighteen months of savings so I can go out on my own" is.

Then run the rebuy on the offer

Flip it around, because it's easy to evaluate an offer as an escape from your current mood rather than on its own terms.

If you were already in that job, at that salary, in that office, would you take a pay cut to get back to where you are now?

If yes, you've just told yourself the price. Compare it to theirs.

If no, take the money and stop deliberating.

Questions that come up

How much more should a job pay to be worth losing remote work?

There's no universal number, and anyone offering one is guessing about your life. The only figure that matters is the one you'd have named before you saw theirs. Most people have never named it, which is exactly why the offer feels impossible to judge.

Is it a mistake to go back to an office for money?

Not if you know what the money is for and you'd actually use it. It's a mistake when the extra salary gets absorbed into a slightly nicer life and two years later nothing has changed except your commute.

What if they'd let me negotiate a hybrid arrangement?

Ask. It costs one conversation, and a surprising number of these are negotiable at the offer stage and almost never after. The worst outcome is that you learn exactly how firm the requirement is, which is information you want before you accept.

How do I know if I'm overvaluing flexibility?

Look at the last twelve months. If you had geographic freedom and stayed in the same postcode the whole time, you may be defending an option you never exercise. That doesn't mean sell it, but it does mean pricing it honestly rather than romantically.

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